I have faded from him over time. AITA for not telling my dad about an award I was getting in school? They never bothered to get to know my wife either. I just feel like an ungrateful Asshole right now. And if she turned out deaf (she didn't), they wouldn't treat her with respect either. I'm starting to wonder if my wife and I are selfish for keeping our daughter from a big family full of cousins her age because we have our own hang-ups about them. Aita for not telling my dad about an award winners. Submitted 1 year ago by ReadingTop3083. The whole family is very upset. My dad was remarried at the time, had three stepkids. I told him that I wanted to go out and he said he was busy but wanted the give me my graduation gift and he said he will transfer 5, 000 dollars to my account. He could see that I was upset and asked me if it wasn't enough in an irritated tone. In my rage, I called the hotel to cancel the room and I didn't told my dad.
BG: My parents are divorced and until I was 7 my parents shared custody of me. I told him that it wasn't as he didn't even know what I liked to buy something I would like and I was getting way less than my brother got as always. They didn't even learn sign language for me.
My dad didn't even want to go out with me. We were supposed to leave today but when he came to pick me up, my step-sister was there, he said it was a surprise since ''both of his girls'' were graduating, apparently she begged him to come with us and he agreed, saying that she could get his bed and he'll sleep on the floor between us. I wasn't happy when told me about my gift. Before that I was a total daddy's girl, I adored him and I was glued to his hip, my mom encouraged me to keep a relationship with him after they split, his new wife family never paid much attention to me, they weren't mean nor good, but at first I always had to share my dad with them whenever I visited. Aita for not telling my dad about an award won. He went on about him being my dad and deserving to know and how proud he was, etc, and why couldn't I see, why was I out to hurt him. I hope I've given enough context. I won't lie, I really enjoyed it, I could really talk with my dad, do fun stuff and be around him without having to wait for my stepbrothers to stop talking to him or anything. He doesn't have his life together.
My wife (35F) and I (36M) live across the country from my family and we only visit for weddings, funerals and other big family-related events. His wife called after and told me I should have told him. My dad found out about this last week, but I got the award at the start of May. I was excited to spend the evening with him but he blew me of. Growing up they only did the bare minimum: fed me, clothed me, made small talk but they never actually tried to get to know me or do anything beyond that. He hasn't talked to me since it has happened and I wasn't invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. My school only put the photos up a week ago and my dad was really upset. I told him I didn't want his money and left. I'm this medicore girl who struggled through a CS degree.
Saying I'd have "siblings" all the time and how great it was there and stuff. My dad bought my brother a very expensive watch and paid for his trip to Europe when he graduated. I mean, I kinda get it. No one in my family keeps in touch with me anyway so I didn't see a reason to volunteer any information to them. I told him what was the point, that his choice was made 9 years ago that they were more important and my life didn't involve them anymore. So now on to the issue: my wife and I have a 2-year-old daughter. I remember I used to cry at night because I couldn't understand. My brother somehow found out about my daughter's existence a few weeks ago. He told me he/they could have flown out to show support and it would have been a nice extra visit for us. Both my wife and I are deaf. He is the perfect son every parent would have wanted to have.
So I never told them about my daughter. I've never been close with anyone in my family: my grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, brother and father (single dad), because they never bothered to look past my disability. As for my mom I explained her everything and after much crying from both parts, she apologized and hugged me because she didn't know. He tries but his choice was made when he moved and my opinion on that is unchanging. But I never wanted to leave my mom and I was too mad that he picked them over me. My dad's wife didn't want to be apart from her oldest or to separate her three kids, so she wanted to move as well. He's a narcissist who has always treated me poorly and my family enables his bad behavior. My (17F) parents divorced ten years ago because my dad cheated on my mom. We're in our 30s, and they still treat us like children.
When they arrived he tried to check in and when he couldn't, he called me, I only said ''yeah, I cancelled it. '' That's another reason I keep them at arm's length. I never forgave him for moving. His oldest stepkids dad was moving for work and she wanted to move with him, and the courts said that she could.
My mom and I will be having a getaway weekend to the spa and my dad said he would take me to the beach. We have a healthy bank account, we travel a lot and we're ready to buy a nice house but we're waiting for the housing market to cool down. ETA: As someone suggested I'm adding this, the trip with my dad and the spa getaway with my mom was because I got an early acceptance nor because I was graduating high school, that why Julia had no business being there. Yet my family still reveres him as a smart and capable person. Despite all that, my family thinks that my wife's family takes care of us, i. e. help out financially, manage our finances and walk us through everyday tasks like buying groceries or paying bills.
I also informed my dad that since he keeps hurting me and putting his other family above what I explicitly ask him for then I would rather go NC with him and that he was currently uninvited to my graduation. That this was the last time and while I still love him and it hurts my heart that it has come to this, I can't keep doing it anymore, I asked him to not contact me again and I blocked him.