I'm told that my son is growing well and that he's healthy and active. I'm now the guardian of my younger brother and am taking care of him. I think I must have absorbed this into my unconcious and that is why I still carry the sadness; all those comments about being the mother in law rather than the mother of the bride, the expectation of not having such a close relationship with your future grandchildren; these are all fantasies too that we have all been bought up with so they are so ingrained.
I feel blessed to be surrounded by so many healthy and gorgeous boys:). "I can't have children of my own. My house is full on Thanksgiving and Christmas. There is no limit to what little boys and little girls can do anymore. Sad I will never have a daughter - December 2021 Babies | Forums. It can be very hard living with a parent who is depressed because that person may do or say things that make children feel bad or confused. Breadyegg · 24/02/2013 10:54. Depression causes people to act in ways that are different from how they act normally. Not at all wishing I was doing anything else, with anyone else. It lists common questions children have about their parent's depression, as well as suggestions for how to answer their questions. I have 1 nephew and I always tell him he's my special boy. There are many possible causes of depression.
The last child, they figured, would definitely be a girl. However, I put myself on the line and trusted my instincts to contact these people. He gave up a lot for him and struggled to pay bills. Depression is not a weakness. I feel like a terrible mom for not being satisfied with having only boys. I have even gotten in touch with my mother and told her that I have forgiven her. Maybe they've hoped for twins for as long as they can remember. When a parent is depressed - What kids want to know. I have 3 boys and yes I do occasionally feel like the op, and not because I don't like boys or particularly prefer girls but, insanely, because of the grandchildren thing! To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. She wanted a growing-old-together relationship with this difficult, enigmatic woman. Someone in my extended family is really struggling with this to the extent that she is now on anti-depressants and feels estranged from her boys.
I feel so blessed with my 3, I can easily make myself cry thinking about how much I love them and how lucky I am to have them for so so many reasons. While suicide is a risk with depression, it is only one of the many symptoms a person might have. That's true, too, for people who choose to be single. But that's just not true!
Now, Laura couldn't be more grateful for her sons. I said I only cared about the babies being healthy because I was absolutely positive that at least one of my fraternal twins was going to be a girl. The women with biomedical barriers felt the most pain about not having children, and the women who chose not to have kids felt the least. Throughout these years, I did several stints in rehabilitation centers, where nurses and psychiatrists worked hard on me. I find it SO difficult to look after myself that I can't imagine how much harder it would be raising a child. "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. " I do remember the fear that we wouldn't have a son and feel for you. He mourns in his own way. But oh, how wrong I was. I have two boys as well. "I have a few reasons: 1) I don't like the idea of giving birth and changing my body, 2) I'm not sure i want to change my whole life for kids, 3) I'm perfectly happy with my nephews, 4) The idea of picking a surname stresses me out — will it be my surname or my partner's surname? Sad i'll never have another baby. She would not necessarily complete your life. By the time your child is a healthy and happy 2-year-old, your gender disappointment will be long forgotten.
Participating in sports, hobbies, and other activities with healthy grown-ups and kids is important because it helps to have fun and feel good about you. But declaring that what did (or didn't) lie between my future kids' legs didn't matter to me wasn't entirely honest. And I didn't view having a little girl as a chance for a do-over. They're only 3 but I'm laying the groundwork to raise them to be men I'll be proud of. My feelings have nothing to do with the kids I do have, but everything to do with a feeling of loss about all the experiences I am unlikely to have. As much as I like playing with Matchbox Cars, it's nice that I can share some of the things I love with my boys as well, like baking and crafting, and be proud of it. I'm scared when he moves, imagining him tangled up in his cord. If my own mother could not love me, how and why would anyone else? Be open-minded to other opinions.
"I can't have children of my own and when my mum found out, she was devastated but I was not. I recently turned 18 and she passed a week later. Will the depression ever be fixed? I want breathe in your courage, your wisdom, your strength—all of which are there, but which you don't see yet. The root of my inability to accept love easily stems back to my childhood. I also learned that not everyone is someone I can open up to—but the more I do it, the better instincts I have about who to let into my life. I wouldn't want a child to go through the same things I went through.