Being nice to someone allows you to be in touch with your empathetic self. Author: Rachel Van Dyken. Everyone makes mistakes and they are usually small ones, but we should always look at the bigger picture and decide if the person is trying to make amends for what they have done or if it was a one-time thing. Maybe you show great kindness and loyalty in friendship, but are you nice to strangers too? Maybe you've experienced something terrible that you believed you couldn't survive. You never know what someone is going through and you aren't aware of how much you can affect their life. The next step is also a lot harder than just making other people confide in you in the first place.
I'd say it's best not served up at all. You never know what someone is going through right now… let alone what kind of demons from the past they have to fight every day. Running around, shouting and throwing papers at other passengers, they created chaos. People who think that they're better than others are often just having a better year, month, or day…. Author: Arthur Golden. I remind myself of people who judged me and the things I could tell them that would make them ashamed of it. Peacemaker Click To Tweet. His perspective shifted permanently that day. They can never know whether they are wrong, even when they are. If you've experienced the judgments I'm talking about; you know that it doesn't feel good. I can only imagine what might be going on in your life. You can stop that bad pattern from repeating itself by being the kind person you'd like others to be. Not everyone feels like they have someone they can rely on.
Compliment someone for no reason at all. Always remember, you never know what someone is going through, so at least try not to judge them. It is because our muscles are in a stiff position already and it just becomes a part of us – some people even have to practice smiling in front of the mirror because they never smile. Even so, this doesn't mean that we don't have the right to experience emotional pain. If you are going somewhere, tell them before they go with you so that they know. It always reminds us of the importance of being kind to all human beings. I genuinely believe if everyone was kinder to others, there'd probably be fewer problems in the world. Offer your seat to someone on the train, bus, or subway. Watch what you put out into the universe, as the same is often returned to you. Instead of realizing that, we assume things about them based on just a few things that we do know about them. You may not understand why, but it doesn't mean they don't deserve compassion. Maybe you had a friend who was in a toxic relationship.
Don't judge a book by its cover. Author: Ann Aguirre. We need to stop for a second and really learn to listen and truly see each other. To that person, what they're dealing with may feel agonizing for them. That's because Narnia was a Christian allegory pretending to be a fantasy series, you asshole, " said one of the other boys. We are natural observers, and we notice the considerate actions of others. You never know how much good you do. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present. As he was leaving, some other students were teasing him, until another student told them to stop.
Some people suffer in silence. Component 2: Hearing. This means that you can be in a happy-jolly mood but still have a negative emotional impact on others.
Struggling to have children, losing someone beloved, or being seriously ill for example are (luckily) not common problems everyone can necessarily relate to. He helps me see and listen, and He will help you, too. Radiate your happiness so brightly that it may reach even the most broken hearts and fill them with joy. This consists of three main steps: - Identify a specific emotion the other person is feeling. Taking the low road is a lot more work than you might think.
In the morning I would stop at my local coffee shop to get a latte on the way to the hospital. Maybe she started thinking that she didn't deserve any better, and didn't know that it could be. Offer to help someone with their luggage at the airport. Twice during a thirteen-month period he was hospitalized, thirty minutes away from our home. All the people we come across every single day are going through something. You have learned something new about the other person and can now see that there are endless possibilities for making heart-to-heart connections.
Be like a shade of a tree to someone walking alone under the scorching sun's heat. Author: Burt Reynolds. Please stop reading if you are trying to "pick up, " manipulate, or otherwise play with other people's vulnerability. But after a while, we seem to go back to a default of harsh judgment and not giving the benefit of the doubt. As far as the don't do this or don't do that part of a promise, even if it was a joke or a hypothetical situation, your best bet is to just not say it at all.
Don't think you're better than anyone just because you're having a better day, month, or year. It has to be just the two of you talking. That's why you should never judge or correct someone's inner voice — not even to yourself. Understanding and Thoughtfulness Are Validating.
Lately I've been reading all these posts on social media about people who used to pretend that their lives were perfect and have decided to raise their voices and tell their true stories for the first time. I know there were times that my reaction to the normal everyday annoyances was way out of proportion to what was actually taking place. Smile more and frown less, it will make you feel better about yourself and those around you who see you smile more. Had it been like that for her father? Author: Jodi Picoult. Yes, we can change our reaction to them and what they do to us, but it takes practice, and not everyone is there yet. We need to care about other human beings at least enough to be kind to them.
Think of your worst 15 minutes before judging strangers.